“The fact is, as experience shows, that new life is not the result of each and every act of sexual intercourse.” Humanae Vitae
God’s natural, beautiful design is that women are only fertile for a short time each month. Taking into account egg life (48 hours at most) and sperm life (up to five days depending on the type of mucus in the woman’s body), there are approximately seven fertile days in a woman’s cycle.
Other factors include each woman’s individual level of fertility, the type of mucus, their age (the younger they are, the more fertile) and the man’s particular level of fertility (sperm count and quality of sperm). For a normal healthy couple actively seeking a pregnancy, it usually happens within six months.
Intercourse is not supposed to result in pregnancy every time a couple engages in the marital embrace. And contrary to popular belief, the Catholic Church does not teach that a couple must actively seek pregnancy every time they engaged in marital relations. But she does teach that intercourse must at least implicitly retain its procreative meaning. Therefore, if spacing or avoidance of pregnancy is desired, the couple may use Natural Family Planning…that is, relations during the infertile time.
NFP is safe, healthy and effective and works as good, if not better, than most of the popular contraceptive devices without any of the side effects.
Let us pray each time we approach the marital bed: “I take you to be my spouse. I come here freely, I love you totally and I am open to creating children with you.”
Copyright 2010 Ellen Gable Hrkach